Chou Toshio
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Now, both men and women do a lot of things to appeal to the interest of the other gender. This can range from anything from following fashion, using certain colognes/perfumes (or men's body wash) to picking up sex techniques.
If you look at the huge volume of sales of woman's magazines (and their content) I am sure you will find that no lack of information on how to attract and appease men. I can't be the only guy who has, in a number of encounters, had a girl actually admit that [insert action here] she did to me over the course of a date, was something she read in a woman's magazine. I'm sure I wasn't the only elementary schooler whose eyes widened should he happen to accidentally read one of the sexual title headings on a cosmo magazine while waiting with his parents in the supermarket checkout line.
Likewise, that "other article" did mention the growing (Pick Up Artist) PUA culture-- men (even American men!) are also becoming more and more savvy as to how to groom themselves-- from the hair to dress up and cologne, to the small talk and seduction.
Now unfortunately this discussion does arise from the fact that there seems to be an overall negative view of the so-called "Venusian Arts," illustrated by the quote above. However, I find any negativity directed towards Venusian Arts preposterous, and am personally standing up to defend the right of both genders to use them to attract the opposite gender.
Perhaps one of the overlying reasons there is a negative view of the quoted "Venusian Arts" is because of its relationship to Pick Up Artist culture.
The most disappointing thing about this though, is the unfortunate name "Pick Up Artist," which incurs people's scorn with some dirty image of males somehow swindling women. Let's take a step back though and look at what these men really are:
Fundamentally, they're guys trying to attract woman into consensual sexual or romantic relations.
As long we're not talking about someone trying to deal drugs or swindle money, a practitioner of "game" is fundamentally just the above-- a male looking to attract women. I fail to see where the problem is.
While each man has his own romantic/sexual agendas, the same could be said about every woman. Everyone is looking to fill their own agenda (in one or multiple partners), and so part of the "market" is to look out for your own agenda while trying to pursuade and/or compromise in order to get what you want out of your relationships. Frankly speaking, losing site of, or being unable to bargain into your own interests is your fault, and not "wrong-doing" on either partner.
Sure, there are lots of guys out there looking to get laid. But, as long as we're being honest with ourselves, there are more than enough women looking to do the same (and others still looking to use men for money). I personally don't see any of the above as foul play.
For both men and women, if you're in the game, getting hurt or getting tricked is a real risk, and there is nothing but your own abilities to "evaluate people" that you can blame-- if you can't deal with the risk, don't play the game.
Take the most typical "game" setting. You are at a bar/party/club with guys (or girls) looking to "open" (approach) particular "sets" (groups of people) and "close" (succeed) with their "targets" (target guy/girl).
If you are in that setting, you should be aware that you will deal with complete strangers (guys or girls, straight, bi or gay) and be aware of the dangers-- you wouldn't leave your drink unattended there would you?
If you are someone who cannot deal with the dangers, by all means don't go. If you want to meet guys or girls, there are much safer ways to do so-- have someone introduce a friend, or even use one of the many internet dating services. Some laugh, but others are actually living the happily ever after dream thanks to online match-makers. Every facet of life where you get involved with people has its own level/levels of risk that one must safeguard himself against.
The point I'm getting at is that in romance, you have to protect yourself and your own interests-- but the only ones to "blame" are those who cannot do this. It is natural that people will all be "playing" to achieve their own interests-- just like in business or any facet of life really. There's nothing inherently wrong about that.
Now really, the Venusian Arts themselves are not evil-- what is or isn't evil is people's intentions.
I actually really like the comparison to Martial Arts. Martial Arts are the art of violence, techniques designed specifically to harm, disable or destroy the human body. As an advanced student/practitioner of Judo, Jujitsu and Wrestling with some knowledge of boxing/kick boxing, I can say-- I know how to suffocate an opponent or break his arm. As I walk on a daily basis, the vast majority of people walking around me would be powerless to stop me if I chose to beat the living shit out of them.
Does that make Martial Arts evil? Should learning them or practicing them be banned? Of course not-- there is nothing inherently evil in the technique. Having the knowledge/ability is not wrong. Only human intent can be wrong, the decision to use the technique for violence outside self-defense or regulated competition.
While Martial Arts can be used to destroy innocent people, used for its best purpose-- it can also be used to protect innocent people.
Venusian arts are pretty much the same. They can be as evil or as good as the person using them. The user of the arts can be as good or bad for a particular woman/man being targeted as far as he/she can protect his/her own interests.
Has anyone ever seen the movie Hitch? You have got to see the scene where Will Smith stands up at the speed dating event and says, "This is what's wrong about love-- there are so many great guys in the world, but women will never know because they never even give them a chance."
There are so many guys out there, especially in this generation, who possess outstanding kindness, intelligence and compassion-- all the traits woman think they are (and actually are) hoping for in a partner. Unfortunately many of these guys have no idea how to get past the initial social BS. There are so many missed chances because people don't know how to talk heart-to-heart.
Used for their very best purposes, Venusian arts can break down these walls, help people to get to the point where they can really know each other, and have a greater chance at finding happiness. As a guy who ultimately, is looking for that particular special girl to whom I can devote myself, I still believe the fundamental lessons of Venusian arts are invaluable knowledge-- and I'm not trying to trick anyone, just trying to show the real "me."
Pick Up Arts, as a very first requirement, preach self-value, self-confidence, courage, and a willingness to actually get off your ass and actually do something about the problem.
All of this is fantastic.
Whether or not you agree with running set "routines" or "opening sets just for practice" or what have you, you cannot help but admire the spirit to actually try. It's 1000 times better than a nice guy who twiddles his fingers too scared to try. No woman wants a guy like that anyway. Not truly.
For those who simply cannot accept Venusian arts as a concept, I'd suggest trying to read Neil Strauss' "The Game,"-- it's a fantastic book about a whole lot more than its simple title suggests. Try to read it with an open mind.
As for guys who are in that "clueless" condition mentioned above-- I REALLY suggest you read it. Clueless girls too, as a lot of it is transferrable. The thing is that this stuff works.
From a personal standpoint, despite not thinking myself particularly popular, I would still fall in the category Neil would call a "natural," with natural ability to attract woman. Even being a natural though, while I haven't had any contact with the PUA community outside reading Neil's book (which is an autobiography, not an actual PUA technique text), the book totally changed my outlook and attitude about it.
I read it on the flight over to London for study abroad-- and a week and a half after I reached London I had a girlfriend. While we eventually had a teary parting when I left London, it was and is still one of the most memorable and meaningful relationships of my life.
That is what Venusian arts is truly about.
Opening discussion here!
First off I'd like to say that I am not starting this thread to re-start the discussion on male/female roles in society. I'll leave that can of worms for someone else. This is just to pick specifically about the discussion of seduction, attraction, "playing the game", as this really is a subject in and of itself.And then, his trumpeting of the "Venusian Arts". I think the ridiculousness of the idea of a step-by-step process for "seduction" speaks for itself.
Now, both men and women do a lot of things to appeal to the interest of the other gender. This can range from anything from following fashion, using certain colognes/perfumes (or men's body wash) to picking up sex techniques.
If you look at the huge volume of sales of woman's magazines (and their content) I am sure you will find that no lack of information on how to attract and appease men. I can't be the only guy who has, in a number of encounters, had a girl actually admit that [insert action here] she did to me over the course of a date, was something she read in a woman's magazine. I'm sure I wasn't the only elementary schooler whose eyes widened should he happen to accidentally read one of the sexual title headings on a cosmo magazine while waiting with his parents in the supermarket checkout line.
Likewise, that "other article" did mention the growing (Pick Up Artist) PUA culture-- men (even American men!) are also becoming more and more savvy as to how to groom themselves-- from the hair to dress up and cologne, to the small talk and seduction.
Now unfortunately this discussion does arise from the fact that there seems to be an overall negative view of the so-called "Venusian Arts," illustrated by the quote above. However, I find any negativity directed towards Venusian Arts preposterous, and am personally standing up to defend the right of both genders to use them to attract the opposite gender.
Perhaps one of the overlying reasons there is a negative view of the quoted "Venusian Arts" is because of its relationship to Pick Up Artist culture.
The most disappointing thing about this though, is the unfortunate name "Pick Up Artist," which incurs people's scorn with some dirty image of males somehow swindling women. Let's take a step back though and look at what these men really are:
Fundamentally, they're guys trying to attract woman into consensual sexual or romantic relations.
As long we're not talking about someone trying to deal drugs or swindle money, a practitioner of "game" is fundamentally just the above-- a male looking to attract women. I fail to see where the problem is.
While each man has his own romantic/sexual agendas, the same could be said about every woman. Everyone is looking to fill their own agenda (in one or multiple partners), and so part of the "market" is to look out for your own agenda while trying to pursuade and/or compromise in order to get what you want out of your relationships. Frankly speaking, losing site of, or being unable to bargain into your own interests is your fault, and not "wrong-doing" on either partner.
Sure, there are lots of guys out there looking to get laid. But, as long as we're being honest with ourselves, there are more than enough women looking to do the same (and others still looking to use men for money). I personally don't see any of the above as foul play.
For both men and women, if you're in the game, getting hurt or getting tricked is a real risk, and there is nothing but your own abilities to "evaluate people" that you can blame-- if you can't deal with the risk, don't play the game.
Take the most typical "game" setting. You are at a bar/party/club with guys (or girls) looking to "open" (approach) particular "sets" (groups of people) and "close" (succeed) with their "targets" (target guy/girl).
If you are in that setting, you should be aware that you will deal with complete strangers (guys or girls, straight, bi or gay) and be aware of the dangers-- you wouldn't leave your drink unattended there would you?
If you are someone who cannot deal with the dangers, by all means don't go. If you want to meet guys or girls, there are much safer ways to do so-- have someone introduce a friend, or even use one of the many internet dating services. Some laugh, but others are actually living the happily ever after dream thanks to online match-makers. Every facet of life where you get involved with people has its own level/levels of risk that one must safeguard himself against.
The point I'm getting at is that in romance, you have to protect yourself and your own interests-- but the only ones to "blame" are those who cannot do this. It is natural that people will all be "playing" to achieve their own interests-- just like in business or any facet of life really. There's nothing inherently wrong about that.
Now really, the Venusian Arts themselves are not evil-- what is or isn't evil is people's intentions.
I actually really like the comparison to Martial Arts. Martial Arts are the art of violence, techniques designed specifically to harm, disable or destroy the human body. As an advanced student/practitioner of Judo, Jujitsu and Wrestling with some knowledge of boxing/kick boxing, I can say-- I know how to suffocate an opponent or break his arm. As I walk on a daily basis, the vast majority of people walking around me would be powerless to stop me if I chose to beat the living shit out of them.
Does that make Martial Arts evil? Should learning them or practicing them be banned? Of course not-- there is nothing inherently evil in the technique. Having the knowledge/ability is not wrong. Only human intent can be wrong, the decision to use the technique for violence outside self-defense or regulated competition.
While Martial Arts can be used to destroy innocent people, used for its best purpose-- it can also be used to protect innocent people.
Venusian arts are pretty much the same. They can be as evil or as good as the person using them. The user of the arts can be as good or bad for a particular woman/man being targeted as far as he/she can protect his/her own interests.
Has anyone ever seen the movie Hitch? You have got to see the scene where Will Smith stands up at the speed dating event and says, "This is what's wrong about love-- there are so many great guys in the world, but women will never know because they never even give them a chance."
There are so many guys out there, especially in this generation, who possess outstanding kindness, intelligence and compassion-- all the traits woman think they are (and actually are) hoping for in a partner. Unfortunately many of these guys have no idea how to get past the initial social BS. There are so many missed chances because people don't know how to talk heart-to-heart.
Used for their very best purposes, Venusian arts can break down these walls, help people to get to the point where they can really know each other, and have a greater chance at finding happiness. As a guy who ultimately, is looking for that particular special girl to whom I can devote myself, I still believe the fundamental lessons of Venusian arts are invaluable knowledge-- and I'm not trying to trick anyone, just trying to show the real "me."
Pick Up Arts, as a very first requirement, preach self-value, self-confidence, courage, and a willingness to actually get off your ass and actually do something about the problem.
All of this is fantastic.
Whether or not you agree with running set "routines" or "opening sets just for practice" or what have you, you cannot help but admire the spirit to actually try. It's 1000 times better than a nice guy who twiddles his fingers too scared to try. No woman wants a guy like that anyway. Not truly.
For those who simply cannot accept Venusian arts as a concept, I'd suggest trying to read Neil Strauss' "The Game,"-- it's a fantastic book about a whole lot more than its simple title suggests. Try to read it with an open mind.
As for guys who are in that "clueless" condition mentioned above-- I REALLY suggest you read it. Clueless girls too, as a lot of it is transferrable. The thing is that this stuff works.
From a personal standpoint, despite not thinking myself particularly popular, I would still fall in the category Neil would call a "natural," with natural ability to attract woman. Even being a natural though, while I haven't had any contact with the PUA community outside reading Neil's book (which is an autobiography, not an actual PUA technique text), the book totally changed my outlook and attitude about it.
I read it on the flight over to London for study abroad-- and a week and a half after I reached London I had a girlfriend. While we eventually had a teary parting when I left London, it was and is still one of the most memorable and meaningful relationships of my life.
That is what Venusian arts is truly about.
Opening discussion here!